what is baby bunching?

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Jul 01, 2010


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Good tips! My 13 month old is getting to the point where a trade no longer satisfies her unfortunately. and my almost 3 year old is not a fan of sharing. I'll be giving these ideas a try!! Thanks

Rachel O.

I'm in the same boat with my 13 month old and 30 month old... The older baby has the "trade" idea down pat, but the younger baby is starting to not be a fan. I sometimes have them count til 30 to take turns (which older baby also has down pat) but then I sometimes take 5+ minutes sitting counting out time for turns with each kid. At least they'll learn their numbers, I guess!


My strategy right now is to say, 'you can have the toy when your sister is finished with it', and tell sister, 'when you are finished with it please give it to brother'. No timing or enforced sharing. Gives them both reassurance that their turn will come, and when it does they can have toy as long as they want. Kids are 36 and 16 months and it's working great. They like to make the choice when to give up a toy, and they are usually done in no time. I never thought it would have worked. 16 month old doesn't realy get it though. I have to hold her while she cries for the toy but 3 year old quickly gives it up. This is how it works on play dates at my house too.


We do the "whenever you're done with it" thing too. Our girls are 15 months and 29 months. Generally they do pretty good about sharing considering their ages but when it comes up it has to be dealt with due to the fact that the little one has caught up to the big one size-wise and does NOT have the whole 'it's not ok to push/shove/grab/pull hair' thing down yet. And she is 4 inches shorter so she has a lower center of gravity. I generally just say 'X had it first but as soon as they're done it can be your turn' and once it gets set down it's fair game although usually the first one will share before it gets to that point. We also try to have at least two of whatever is in the main play area and save the single toys for other areas. Makes for easier distracting, since you can just say 'oh look baby, your doll/phone/puppet is right here!'

jean grow

The toy swap thing is a winner! We learned it by accident with the twins: one boy figured out that he could have any toy he wanted, as long as he threw a distraction into his brother's lap. The second boy just loved having new toys fall out of the sky all the time and was thrilled. They are 38 months now, and share pretty well with their sister (14 months). The best kicker for anything is huge positive attention for it... we're fans of both types of feedback, but I think overall, it is easy to forget to throw the praise on by the bucketfull.

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