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Feb 08, 2010


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As difficult as it is with three kids in 3.5 years, one thing we try is "date nights" after the kids are in bed. We serve them dinner early and then save takeout or a special meal for us to eat in quiet, maybe watch a movie. Its not much but we do what we can!


For a while, my husband and I set aside a specific hour every night to hang out together. No TV, no kids, just the two of us and a board game. It was a nice time to just be together as a couple.


My advice would be to just do it. I'm not always in the mood for sex, but I try not to ever turn hubby down when he wants it. I always end up enjoying myself too. ;)


I wish I had some advice. With a near toddler and one on the way sleep is most important.


With a 2-year-old and a 2-month-old, sex is usually the last thing on my mind! And we're all getting sick for the 2nd time this year - and it's only February! The easiest way for us to fit in romance is on the weekend during naptime (I'll be like, "hey hon, are you doing anything? I had an idea..."), or after bedtime when we can settle down and watch a movie. Sometimes we'll have the grandparents take the older one so we have even more of a chance. We haven't gone so far as to mark it on the calendar, but maybe that's what it takes!


Believe it or not some positive feed back goes along way. I find if I compliment or praise my husband often that I get good in return. :-) Make him feel good.


my best advice is to communicate - remember that you don't have a glass head- so he won't know your thoughts, and likewise- you don't know his as well.


Now that we have four grapes in our bunch, we've decided that investing in our marriage is more important than ever. We opt for a date night once a month or date lunch - nothing super fancy, but time when we are out of the house together. We used to do date night at home, but I always ended up folding laundry and he'd end up watching TV; getting out became nec. IMO what we spend on food/sitter (though we have an au pair, so we have the hours to use) is less expensive than marriage counseling or divorce lawyers. Seriously, a good marriage is the best gift we can give our kids and so important for quality of life.


I find that doing something sensual together (i.e. bubble bath, eating fondue, massage) after the kids go to bed helps set the stage.

Of course, with my hubby deployed, I'd just be happy to have him home. ;-)

Tracy Greer

Okay, I have six children age 14, 13, 13, 10, 6 & 5. A husband who is very helpful thank God, but still a man. I hate saying this, it sounds really wrong, but it's the only way we can find time to ourselves. We have recently designated Wednesday nights "date night" because the kids started going to Bible School at church for an hour and fifteen minutes. We drop the kids off to their classrooms and jet over to our favorite restaraunt or if the funds are low we just go to Barnes & Nobles and just sit & visit with each other and read books and drink a Starbucks. I hate using God as a babysitter, but who better to leave your children with? I look so forward to that hour every week. It is just "our" time alone every week. Thank you God...


We're still in the throws of the early baby bunching years (7mo and 2yrs)... so I'd say the biggest thing we've done is to move the little one into the boys' shared room. He still doesn't spend the whole night there but at least we get to go to bed (ALONE) together.

Lia Susla

As others have said, communication really is the best aphrodisiac! Now that our kids are almost 3 and almost 5, we have a little more "free time." We really have to make Sat. night a priority for our alone time. After the kids go to bed, we give each other foot massages, watch a good movie and then go from there. Sometimes, a sexy outfit does the trick.


I've been (trying to) quietly cleaning up all those little messes he leaves (shoes/socks in the middle of the room, clothes on bathroom floor, his dishes on the table after dinner) without nagging him to do it himself. i used to be of the mind that if my 2- and 4-year-old can pick up (mostly) after themselves that he should be pulling his share, too. now, i (try to) do it without comment and it's done wonders for our mood toward each other!

MaryBeth @ Four Silly Sisters

The big deal for us is simply making time for one another... turning off the tv and computers after the girls have gone to bed has really helped us to reconnect.


Some days I just go all Nike... JUST DO IT!... because I know my sex drive will be back (as soon as the baby starts sleeping through the night...) and I just want my husband to still be there when that happens. It will happen right? RIGHT?!?!


we make sure our kids are in bed early (6:30-7:00pm) so that we can have a few uninterrupted hours at night together.


We decided to stop giving each other smaller gifts for birthdays/holidays and instead save up that money and take short day or weekend trips without the kids a couple of times a year. Getting away, even for a day, is very romantic (i mean clean bed and breakfast rooms, meals prepared by someone else and quiet baths without interuptions!!!).

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