enjoying the calm before the storm

There is a time after newly entering the Baby Bunching game, when things seem blissful and almost peaceful. You've recently delivered a baby (which we're almost sure was easier than the first), your toddler doesn't really care much about the latest addition, and everyone is actually sleeping....for now anyway.

You may recall after your first baby (or perhaps not since you've been sleep deprived, pregnant and had another baby since then) that babies have a very nice--and sometimes short window--where they sleep. A lot! Friends call and ask how you're doing. You respond, "Oh my God, this is so great. I have such a great sleeper. It's so easy." [Note: If you say this, I will smile and secretly roll my eyes.]

Ok, reality check here. You might have a fabulous sleeper. We really, really, really hope and pray you do. But here's what's really happening. When you had the first baby, you fell into this trap. Your baby slept for about 2-3 weeks. You lived your life as usual and then around three weeks it all came to a screeching halt. Baby wakes up. The quiet period is over.

This is probably also likely with baby #2, #3 and so forth. And while it's possible after about the fourth kid that baby will slide right into your routine, we're doubtful that with the second and third it lasts much past the first month.

So, let this be a notice to you. During the quiet period, expecting that it will end at some point (C'mon you just did this so you KNOW) here is our recommendation on what you should be doing now before the storm:

1) First and foremost you should catch up on any sleep. Chances are your toddler still naps so lay down at the same time during some of the 20 hours a day your baby sleeps and rest too. Get caught up now.

2) Spend some time with your oldest. Baby is sleeping and probably not crying much yet (still sleeping) so now is your chance to get rid of the mommy guilts and spend one-on-one time with your toddler.

3) Do whatever administrative stuff you have the energy for (because it won't last long). Meaning: do your thank yous, announcements, phone calls, emails, blogging, etc. Whichever of these you sense is a priority for you. Do it while you have the free time. Tip: phone calls and emails to friends usually gets you a "how can I help response?" You want this. You will need food and help in the coming months. Make the time investment now to reach out and get help later. Pretty tricky, huh?

4) Enjoy the quiet period. Embrace it. Love it. Savor it. Oh, and take pictures. 

Any more tips we may have missed?  

Comments

[Kristi]

Great info as I'm expecting #2 in just a few months!! Thanks!!!

[Karen Rodriguez]

Perfectly said! I wish I had a warning about that quiet period!